Lately I’ve noticed more and more couples opting for small, intimate weddings, choosing to focus on the sweetness of the ceremony, as well as spending quality time with a select group of the most important people in their life. I photographed a small wedding this weekend, and it’s was so wonderful.
Here is some advice on planning an intimate wedding that I hope will help make your wedding day the best day ever:
-Have a wedding coordinator. Even if it’s a friend who just knows how to stay calm in the middle of chaos, it’s so important to have someone that keeps and eye on how things are unfolding, and can act quickly to solve the inevitable issues that arise in any size event.
-Be sure everyone, especially vendors, know how to get to your venue. Often, smaller weddings are held in private residences or smaller venues that may not be familiar to guests. And mapping software on cell phones can be tragically flawed. Provide very detailed directions, and hopefully you won’t be standing around waiting for your cousin or caterer to arrive.
-For some reason, ceremony music tops the list of things that go poorly during small weddings. Often couples try to play their music through a cell phone that’s hooked to a larger speaker system. For some reason, maybe because of how nervous everyone is, the cell phone thing almost always goes badly. I recommend hiring a musician or singer who can adjust to events as they happen.
-If you’re choosing a small wedding for financial reasons, there are lots of things you can do to save money. Work with your florist to select locally grown flowers that are in season. If tuxedos and fancy, matching dresses are not important to you, there are lots of less expensive options. Look for websites like offbeatbride.com to get great money-saving ideas for small weddings.
-Remember that it’s YOUR day. People will offer lots of advice on what to include and who to invite. Acting on all of that advice can get crazy and expensive. Make a list of what’s important to you and stick to it. Invite who you want. Eliminate aspects of ‘traditional’ weddings that are not important to you, like garter tosses, huge wedding cakes, or extravagant photo albums.
-Finally, If you’re planning an outdoor wedding, always have a backup plan in case of crazy weather. If you live in Texas, you know what I’m talking about.
Most importantly, don’t stress the little stuff. Just relax and enjoy your day!
I would love to hear your ideas for and experiences with small weddings. Just leave a comment below!